June 05, 2009
A teaching moment?
In a comment left to M. Simon's earlier post about the death of actor David Carradine (who was found naked and hanging), Captain Ned opined that it was not suicide, but auto-erotic asphyxiation, and pointed to this post by Ace.
Looks like Ace was absolutely right:
David Carradine could have died from suffocation or heart failure after an auto-erotic sex act went tragically wrong, Thai police said today.That last statement strikes me almost as understatement, as I think it's quite obvious what happened. (The timing also struck me as odd; why would any actor commit suicide in the middle of shooting a film?)
Anyway, it's a real tragedy, as I was a fan of David Carradine, and his father, and his brother. My heart goes out to this very talented family, and while I do not want to be seen as making light of a tragic situation, I have a few thoughts. Please bear with me, as I have a dark sense of humor and a non-judgmental attitude about sexuality.
First, I don't judge the man any more than I judge anyone else for his sexual tastes. It matters not in the least to me how anyone gets off. (Save harm to others, such as sex with children or people who don't consent.) While I'm not into auto-erotic asphyxiation, I'd like to think that if I was, I'd be careful, though, not only because I'd prefer to live, but because sudden deaths are very hard on relatives. That is why practitioners of this particular fetish need to be especially careful. Like any high-risk activity, they should never do it alone. (Something any SCUBA diver knows.)
Not that having another person present makes it 100% safe, but it certainly increases the odds. A close friend worked as an emergency room nurse in California, and he told me about a couple who were both found hanging -- both of them dead from joint (as opposed to auto) erotic asphyxiation. (He also told me that another man he knew who tried it told him that until he tried it he had never imagined that any activity could be so pleasurable, and he was warned not to try it.) The couple that was found had made the mistake of enjoying their moment of hypo-oxygenated orgasm together.
Common sense suggests that this is not the sort of thing you'd want to do together, and certainly not at the same time, for obvious reasons.
I realize it sounds a bit silly to use the blog for a "public service announcement", but I don't expect the CDC to go around putting up posters saying something like this:
Kids, if youre going to play around like this, play safe. Don't do it alone.
And if you're a solitary practitioner, don't try it at all. You might like it, and it might very well kill you.
No orgasm is worth dying over.
posted by Eric on 06.05.09 at 09:00 AM
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