January 01, 2011
When a loss is a gain
In a post which touches on a basic difference between the sexes, Dr. Helen notes an irony:
The woman in these cases is legally a child abuser, although the boy sees it as not only desirable, but as a rite of passage.
A step towards manhood.
But as a commenter, pointed out, the standard vis-a-vis girls is completely different, and we are supposed to be fair:
Because society demands that the sexes be treated the same, that's why. What is a rite of passage for a boy is often a cheapening, degrading, and traumatic experience for a girl. It's not fair, and it must be made fair.
In Mexican culture, it is relatively common for a father to take his teenage son to a prostitute so she can show them the ropes (I have heard that in the Mideast, widows provide a similar function) and while the custom is not unheard of in this country, in the unlikely event that the son complained, the prositute could be arrested for pedophilia and the father might face conspiracy charges. But whether that's a desirable way to ensure that a boy learns how to be sexually functional or not, it is very hard to imagine any normal mother taking her daughter to a hired male prostitute to have sex. For a boy, losing virginity means gaining experience; for a girl it means being damaged.
Traditionally, the sexes simply don't see the "loss" of virginity the same way. What is gain for a man is loss for a woman.
Whether calling it sexist and treating the sexes equally will change this, who knows?
Glad I don't make the rules.
MORE: Speaking of rules, RH Hardin points out in the comments that while "a young girl is not expected to understand the bargain, a young man has no such constraint to start with."
And Frank notes that because a new revision in the California Penal Code criminalized even a "come on" by an older woman, Mrs. Robinson (of The Graduate) would now be a criminal.
Does that mean that in the hands of a clever prosecutor, maybe Playboy centerfolds could be charged with "raping" the fifteen year olds who get all hot and bothered when they look at them?
posted by Eric on 01.01.11 at 05:42 PM
Search the Site
Classics To Go
See more archives here
Old (Blogspot) archives
A knee sock jihad might be premature at this time
People Are Not Rational
No Biorobots For Japan
The Thorium Solution
Radiation Detector From A Digital Camera
This war of attrition is driving me bananas!
Attacking Christianity is one thing, but must they butcher geometry?
Are there trashy distinctions in freedom of expression?
Please Don't Let Me Be Misunderstood